This is a ritual to acknowledge and honour the different sides of the festive season that the ancestors and our families might have associated and experienced with it. To find a place for all of it in ourselves and feel supported and resourced doing it.
Set up two representatives on the opposite sides of the room - one for the joy of the season, and one for the suffering of the season. Stand in the middle and choose a representative for a resource to hold in your hand. It could be your guide, your guardian angel, Love, or another powerful resource. Holding on to the Resource, slowly walk towards the representative of Joy of the Season. As you stand in front of it, acknowledge it, feel into it, imagine looking into its eyes, and make a little gesture to touch it and take a little bit of it for you. If possible, bow to it to honour it.
Then slowly walk to the other side, to the representative of the Suffering of the Season. Acknowledge it, look into its eyes, if possible bow to honour, do not touch. Repeat this walk between the two at least three times, noticing with every step what is happening for you, how your body is doing, what feelings and sensations come up, keep hold of the Resource for extra support.
After several rounds, come back to the middle, and with the support of your Resource find a way to breathe in both sides and find a place for them in your body, as both belong to the story of your lineage in a variety of ways. Close the ritual with thanks to your Resource and all involved.
I am fascinated by the Systemic Family Constellations work and everything shamanic. I study it, practice it, research it. Here, I am sharing what I learn and hope it can be of use to somebody interested in healing their families, communities and lives.
In 2019 I published some of my poetry inspired by systemic work in this journal. It is available as PDF, Kindle or printed at the link above.