We are witnessing history in process. Not for the first time and not for the last. It is a challenge to us and an opportunity in some ways, probably also a blessing. We will understand better when it becomes history history and we'll feel safe to assess its full impact.
Many industries are urgently considering alternatives to how they normally operate looking for inspiration and creativity to continue provide valuable service to community in times of social distancing.
Many of us at some point will seriously consider whether to leave our homes and attend events, workshops, meetings etc, even getting there might seem like a risk not worth taking. And many will have an opportunity to spend more time at home, to protect others.
For those of you interested in systemic and shamanic work, not attending live workshops doesn't mean you need to stop your healing process. This is a great opportunity to dive deeper into your home practice. To explore online work if you feel face to face is too much. In my experience of online constellations, individually and in groups, it holds a different flavour to live work, but it is also in many ways amazing and as effective.
In an online group, I have stones to serve as representatives and they are assigned to people on zoom; you remember which stone/representative you hold as you watch the constellation unfold on your screen and feeling into your body, reporting the changes and shifts and letting me know if you want to move your rep to a different position. For now I find it is easier to do one constellation at a time, as you are focusing much more during it. I am also experimenting with a Ziesoo online constellations platform, where we can just do it on screen. It is exciting and wonderful to be able to continue to do this work reaching those who are across the world and time zones. We really work outside time and space:)
In an individual session on zoom or skype or whatsapp - usually you set up a constellation on your side of the screen and I hold you and walk you through it. It is a beautiful way to experience all representative places, to feel shifts happening within you and get a new perspective on what is going on.
And for your personal practice Family Constellations Cards could be a great help to set up simple constellations, to set up your ancestral field and even do your own rituals. I hope we all use this time to explore, to be creative, to be brave and kind. I am only an email away if you'd like to talk, share your journeys or schedule a piece of work.
This Sunday is International Women's Day and I wanted to share with you a ritual to connect with your women ancestors. Find something to represent them, I usually work with stones that I bring from all over the world and have everywhere at home and in the office. It could also be other objects - cushions, chairs, coffee beans, sweets, even cups and cutlery. Clear space and time for the ritual so that you are not distracted and interrupted, switch off your phone, light a candle, set an intention to connect and greet your ancestresses. One by one start setting them up around you in a circle, giving them a place and calling their representations - 'you represent women of my mother's generation', 'women of my grandmothers' generation', 'women of my great grandmothers' generation' etc. Set up about 13 - 15 generations of women in a circle. Stand in the middle and one by one face women of each generation starting with your mother's. You imagine looking into their eyes, breathing deeply, opening your heart to wish them well and to receive their blessings to you. You could also say a little prayer for each generation - for example, thank you for my life, may you be well, may your family prosper. Tune in to what words come. Remember your intention is to connect and greet them, rather then look at entanglements and problems. See if you could keep your heart open to each generation of women, no matter what you know or don't know about them. Connect to their strength, beauty and resilience. If you find this ritual difficult it is good information for you to keep doing this work. If you find it easy and flowing - enjoy! A good sentence is 'I accept and I receive'. When you finished whole circle close your eyes and gather all of them within you - 'I am my ancestresses' wildest dream'. To close the ritual - step out of the circle and collect the stones/objects releasing them from their roles. Thank yourself for doing this today.
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We are well on the way into this leap year, and for some of us this beginning could be a bit challenging, with days still being quite short and cold. For others the challenges might come with the tax time when feelings of scarcity kick in. Whatever it is, feeling supported is crucially important around this time of year. One of the ways to organise some support for yourself and to step into the power of your ancestral field is to actually practice doing this - a meditation of stepping into your ancestral field. Take some time for yourself, where you know you won't be interrupted, light some candles and maybe smudge the space around you or play some relaxing music. Set up your ancestral field on the floor using little objects - stones, crystals, coffee beans, pencils, constellation cards (as in the picture above). Spend some time with your back to it, feeling them all behind you, then turn around to face them and with a prayer for support and with gratitude for your life move forward into the ancestral field. Walk slowly through it sensing with your body - where there is power and support for you in it. When you find that spot, spend some time there, allowing your body to soak up the feeling of being supported, allow images and sensations to surface. When you feel it is enough, say thank you and leave, walking back to your own place in this lineage. Turn to face your own life, breathe in deeply to fully come back, remembering the support of those behind you. Last time I did this for myself, as I walked through the field of ancestors I went straight for my great grandmother, who hugged me tightly and I rested my head in her. She felt very big and I - very small, and there was so much comfort in this embrace. For days after that I felt her behind me, that I am not alone, and there are those who wish me well on my journey through life. You might think to yourself that you are just imagining stuff - good, imagine more! It doesn't matter how it works as long as it does. Do let me know how it goes for you and if you have any questions or would like to explore more I am only an email away.
New tool I designed to help with home practice for those who would like to continue their exploration of ancestral field after the workshop or individual session. There are 25 cards of high quality thick paper that allow you to set up your family tree and walk in it, stand in each position and explore your feelings there, maybe use sentences where it feels right. Or set up a mini constellation - you and your female line, you and your siblings, or you and your children to explore the dynamic of those relationships. Many options to play with, many insights to gain. You are welcome to email me to order these cards and I will post them to you the next day. They have cards for 'I', parents, grandparents, great grandparents, siblings, ancestors and descendants and a card with brief instructions.
Happy Solstice, Happy New Year! Here is a ritual you can do at home and with friends to reflect on the past year and to dream about and resource the new year.
If you like making new year resolutions, then try this year to add a systemic approach to them - as you create them, represent them. Write each resolution on a piece of paper, put them on the floor face down and stand in each, being attentive to what is happening in your body. Select those that feel strongest, empowering and heart opening. Then stand in each of selected ones and say a little prayer to the Divine to send you the necessary resources to achieve your dreams, all the time listening to your body and its wisdom.
Merry Christmas! Happy New Year!
What could systemic ceremony be done for?
Coming of age
Preparing to give birth
Ending a relationship
Preparing to die
Moving to a new house
Even starting or seeking a new job
I put everything I know and work with into designing a ceremony - systemic constellations knowledge, working with the field, systemic ritual and work with ancestors and my shamanic healing training. The word ‘systemic’ refers to anything to do with family system. Every ceremony becomes unique for a specific person, their system and their life situation. It adds to restoring and supporting balance, calling in resources, creating new energy and healing. Ceremonies can be created for one person as an individual ritual or for the whole family as in a wedding ceremony and baby naming. They can be run outside in nature, in places of power, with elements and elementals participating, or in your own room or in a any other premises. It is a beautiful way to celebrate life.
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Our ancestral fields - family trees are numerous and diverse. There is no way for us to know all of our ancestors, some are lucky to have quite a detailed and long family history available and for some even the closest ancestors are a mystery. No matter what we know in our conscious awareness, on a level of our soul and our epigenetics and genetics we are always connected to that field ‘behind’ us. We carry their stories in our bodies; we follow in their steps, make their mistakes and continue what they have started. We inherit their trauma and we inherit their wisdom and strength. We receive their blessings and curses, we entangle with their destinies. We do this out of love and deep loyalties to our tribe, to those who gave us life and who gave us this chance on earth, who was instrumental in our survival.
In all those centuries of ancestors everything that could have been has already happened. All sorrows and happiness, all loss and love. Every family has a history of pain but it also holds and treasurers stories of success, love and tenderness.
When we are faced with a question or an issue that bugs us and prevents us from good night sleep, when we don’t know what to do, how to do it, what is the right step – we can connect with Those who know. Those who came before us, experienced life and found a way out, found an answer, found right solution.
A simple meditation is to set up three or four (or as you are guided) stones to represent ‘Those who know’ and one for ‘you’. First take a place of ‘you’, allow yourself to drop into your body, take a deep breath, notice what is going on inside of you, hold your question in your awareness but focus on your body. Look at ‘Those who know’ in front of you and notice what changes in you when you know they are there. Introduce yourself as their descendant and present them with your question. Notice what happens in your body, when you do that.
Step out of your place and chose one of the ‘Those who know’ place to step in to. As you take a place of representing ‘Those who know’, take time to listen to your body. Notice what happens as you represent an ancient one. Look at your descendant who is asking a question from 2019, notice how it feels. As you focus on your body allow an answer to emerge from deep within you. It could be a subtle knowing, or a sensation or a word or a full-formed answer. It could be just a confirmation of support whatever happens, or a feeling of being on the right path. It will happen in your own way. Offer it to your descendant in a short, concise, kind wording. It always helps to speak out loud even when you are on your own. Vibration of words is as important as their meaning.
Step out of ‘Those who know’ and back into ‘you’. Allow yourself to hear the answer and to fully receive it. Thank them for their support. Take a deep breath in and out and finish this meditation.
Representing your family tree is a great practice to connect with your place in your family, to visualise all these lives lived before you, to see patterns and get insights. It might be of use especially when feeling unsupported and lonely. Spending some time with this field, maybe turning your back to it to feel all of them behind you can be quite healing and grounding. There is no need in any major interventions, just being there, paying attention is enough. In some South African traditions they have regular ceremonies with ancestors either asking for something or giving thanks depending on the need and time of day. They use special poetic language, bring offerings and burn herbs. It is a beautiful ceremony of connections with all those who came before, their support and blessings. I believe we don't have to have it in our cultures to be able to connect with ancestral blessings and support, we just need to be present, give our attention and say - 'Thank you for my life'.
I am fascinated by the Systemic Family Constellations work and everything shamanic. I study it, practice it, research it. Here, I am sharing what I learn and hope it can be of use to somebody interested in healing their families, communities and lives.
In 2019 I published some of my poetry inspired by systemic work in this journal. It is available as PDF, Kindle or printed at the link above.