Every ritual is different. It is based on the orders of systemic constellations and uses its method of representation but is specially designed for the birthday person. This one focused on resources. I did it for a friend who turned fifty recently and wanted to do something special to mark this time in her life. We gathered seven women in a circle and invited them to represent the ancient women ancestors, those who knew life in its fullness and abundance, to bring gifts to their descendant - gifts of strength, courage, calmness, wisdom etc. Together, held by the sound of the drum, we walked the wheel of life bringing power to where it was lacking in the past and providing resources for the future. Each woman received dreams and wishes from her little self and got to experience some wisdom from her older self.
I really enjoyed the sacredness that we created together and beautiful energy that will carry my friend through many more years to come.
I often say to people in Circles or in private sessions to follow their heart or to listen to their gut. For me personally, they are two different things, even though the message will probably be the same.
Follow my heart is paying attention to the physical sensations in my chest - in the area where my heart is supposed to be. Since I've started to work with constellations, I learned to distinguish between true and false by a light expansion or contraction in my heart centre. What opens my heart? What is true to me? Yes or No? Usually it needs to be a direct question or statement said out loud. And then watch your reaction and follow through.
Listening to my gut is usually an immediate knowing, an intuition, an image of the next step, of what is right. For me it doesn't have a physical sensation but a confidence that even if i don't know why it needs to be like that, it just does. In family constellations we usually choose and place representatives based on the gut feeling. The key here is to trust yourself.
I also had to learn to trust my body when working with constellations. Every time I 'got it right',i.e. my representation was accurate to the issue-holder, I was encouraged to be more attentive to my body. Body knowing is another way to be guided. Sometimes it seems as if my body knows where to go and I end up exactly where I needed to be.
Heart, gut, body - all good alternatives to head. But don't leave your head behind, include it into this journey, for the wholeness of YOU.
I am fascinated by the Systemic Family Constellations work and everything shamanic. I study it, practice it, research it. Here, I am sharing what I learn and hope it can be of use to somebody interested in healing their families, communities and lives.
In 2019 I published some of my poetry inspired by systemic work in this journal. It is available as PDF, Kindle or printed at the link above.